Too Fucking Nice

Too Fucking Nice

  June 17, 2016

I'm too nice. I'm too fucking nice and it pisses me off.

This bothered me all weekend. I went out last Friday (June 17, 2016) with my friends and my younger sister to a local pub for a few drinks, celebrating summer and the end of the week.

I was standing close to the bar talking animatedly, as I do, and someone was trying to get past me to order. I look behind me and move out of the way I then turn back to my friends.

A split second later I get a tap on the shoulder, I turn around and it's the guy that was making his way past me I say, "hello," and he proceeds to tell me how good I look, I say "thank you" (unforgivable #1, I know I look good) and throw a pleading look to my sister. He then proceeded to look me up and down while biting his lip and tell me he liked my lips and my "pale white skin".

At this point my brain is red flagging this whole situation but somehow the anger I'm feeling is being expressed in awkward giggles (unforgivable #2, I should have just turned away). All of this happened before he even asked for my name, which I gave him (unforgivable #3, *rolls eyes at myself*).

At this point my little lioness of a sister started in on him and her courage helped me FINALLY find my words. 

I'm too nice, and because I'm too fucking nice this guy would have kept doing EXACTLY what he was doing as if my being nice was an invitation to do with me as he pleased.

This is our reality as women, and it's not okay. This kind of behaviour by some men is disgusting, it's demeaning and worst of all it's dehumanizing.


I came across a hashtag the other day from Global Citizen that inspired me to share this story and I'm going to share some tweets below.

I could go on but I digress.

*Goes to find backbone for next time*

Austin Basham

Austin Basham

Wendy Ferris

Wendy Ferris